Wait. Who?

I was getting lunch with one of my co-RA's today when he asked me question that threw me for a loop: If someone gets the job you wanted, and you and I both know they don't deserve it, how would you feel? My first reaction was livid. I am currently awaiting the arrival of my placement for next year as an RA as well as my potential to become a Head RA, and the thought of someone who didn't fill the position taking mine shook me up to say the least. Then I thought about it. How does this apply outside of Drexel University? What if this were to happen to me in the corporate world? So here came my answer. I said it was their loss, right? If I didn't fit what they were looking for, if they didn't see the potential I know I have to exceed beyond expectations, then there is a good chance I don't even want the position in the first place. But at the same time, I'd be question what wasn't quiet good enough for them, what the one person had that I didn't, and it would work its way back to confidence issues everyone has. So how do you really handle that situation? Is it better to think that they are the ones in the wrong, or turn around and look back into yourself to see how you can improve? Or is it both? Maybe you hope that they didn't quiet know you well enough, that your hair looked bad that day, and they didn't understand the awesome experiences you were telling them about. Maybe they just didn't want to listen to what you had to say, and maybe that is their loss.